Getting married is a big step that shouldn't be taken lightly. But even though so many people take this step and walk down the hall, Approximately 50 percent of marriages in the United States are divorced.
With this in mind, you should think more carefully about getting married so that you don't become part of the statistics. Here are some things to keep in mind for couples who wish they had done things differently to keep the relationship going instead of settling for a divorce.
Having lonely moments in the relationship
Especially when it comes to luck. Some people see relationships as a kind of achievement or reward. Once you are in one, it is the responsibility of others to make you happy. It's a terrible mentality, because relationships are about being together, but also being apart and being able to do your own thing.
In this sense, your partner is not fully responsible for making you happy. You are also responsible for it.
Talk better about feelings
Communication is everything and part of this communication should be to discuss feelings. Letting emotions hold back is terrible and can lead to divisions between the couples. Even if your partner is not directly responsible for these feelings, he can also be a victim. Remember that problems also take care of your problems.
Discuss the topics, even if the conversation is difficult. It's better to let it off your chest than to pretend you're fine, and only to deal with problems sometimes.
Have more responsibility
It goes without saying that we sometimes blame and ignore our role in relationships. However, this often leads to regret if you want to be more responsible at the time. Remember that if we change the guilt or point a finger, it leads to more conflict than solving the problem at hand.
Not arguing is not always a sign of a healthy marriage
Every time we see couples fighting, we find the relationship awful, but couples who don't fight aren't always the best. In some cases, it can be calm before the storm.
If you are getting married, you should definitely conduct a marriage counseling. If they haven't been together for several years, this type of counseling can potentially save a marriage, as couples learn to communicate better and solve problems better together.
Sure, it may seem like a waste of time, but these steps are like installing a smoke alarm. It is better to have them in place before a fire starts than during one.